February 13, 2012

Married to the Military Monday-The Other Wives

It's been a while since I have written a Married to the Military post. Today I want to chat about the "other wives." Recently, someone mentioned to another military spouse, that they were going to make people believe the stereotype of military wives...that they we are all " lazy, dramatic bitches with no life!" Now, excuse that ugly little curse word up there, but that is what she said. I have heard that some people perceive military spouses as certain things, but that is one I haven't heard any of us being labeled as before. As I think about it, I suppose I could recall that some people have heard that we are lazy...that we sit home and do nothing all day as our spouses work. Though, I suppose any stay at home wife could be labeled as lazy. For instance, at the doctor this morning, I was asked if I work. I replied, "I don't work outside the home." The technician replied while looking down an immediately writing, "So, you're a homemaker?" Well, okay...I'm not opposed to being titled a homemaker. I am opposed to that implying that I do nothing all day. I not only work from home, computer-based, et cetera; I also keep house and homeschool. Once the technician heard me talking to someone about homeschooling, she stopped, got wide-eyed, and responded, "Wow! You homeschool?" " I wouldn't have the patience for that!" It's a big job! It's a responsibility that I don't take lightly. It is also a privilege...a big one. I know I am lucky to be able to do the things I do.

Now, back to that big, ugly, stereo-typical label up there... ^ You haven't forgotten about that either, have you? When I first heard that, I was a little shocked...I say a little because I have heard such things before...just not that in particular. I suppose that there are many labels we could stick on military spouses, but the worst part about that one, is that it was more than likely created by the spouse herself. While this was being said, there was a lot of drama going on. There is a group that was started for military only. Most of the wives in this group thought that we were all military spouses (because we were all suppose to be,) so we did share a bit of information amongst each other. Mind you that none of us were breaking OPSEC, but merely talking about what our husband's do in the military. Unfortunately, it was recently brought to our attention that some of the wives had been allowing spouses into the group that are not associated with the military. This immediately divided the group. Not only did it divide the group, but it caused a great bit of drama and stress. There was much bickering back in forth, and even name calling. A few of the spouses began telling many of us that we have a problem with civilians...we dislike civilians, we think they're bad, evil people...and a number of other things that has to do with that. It was nothing of that nature, and we all tried to tell these spouses that. We just thought were all spouses, and felt upset when we found out we had been sharing personal things that we would have only shared with military spouses. I felt betrayed, but mostly because they were telling me things about myself that weren't true...I never said that I dislike civilians, and that wasn't a nice thing to say...That was said to many of us.

So, back to that ugly statement up there...^ Yeah...that was said to me...and it doesn't hurt me...I know that there are stereotypes out there...but, many of them are created by the person that thinks they're being labeled by others. Yes, military spouses can be full of drama...just check out this post on the FRG...I don't stay away from FRG all together...I give it a try first...and, if it's full of drama...or even half-full for that matter...I stay away from there. I prefer a group of people, or even a nice few that will be there when I need to talk about how I'm doing while the man of the house is away, or how the children are making it through the deployment. It would be nice to know that if I'm at home with a sick child, that someone will call on the way to the store and ask if I would like them to pick up anything for me...There are many more things I could say about this topic...and I more than likely will talk about it again the future. I am really interested in hearing some of your thoughts on this subject. Feel free to let me know what you think.

That's all for this week's edition of Married to the Military Monday...Enjoy your week!

February 10, 2012

The Winner of the $25 Bath & Body Works Gift Card is...

Congratulations Desiree! I have sent you an e-mail. Please respond to the e-mail within 24 hours. As soon as I hear back from you, I will put your gift card in the mail.

Thank you to everyone who entered. As I announced to you before, I have purchased more items from Bath & Body Works, that I will be giving away to you. I read every one of your comments about your favorite Bath & Body Works products, and I am looking forward to sharing some of those products with you. Thanks again, everyone. I appreciate all of you.

February 5, 2012

Give-away Update!

I'm enjoying this give-away so much, that I just had to place an order for some more products that I know you will adore. I've been reading all of your comments about your favorite Bath & Body Works products, and I ordered some more items based on some of your favorites. So, after this Valentine's give-away ends; I will surely be hosting another one shortly after it. Stay tuned friends!

February 4, 2012

I want these!

I'm a Hello Kitty fanatic, and I want these shoes! I have several color converse (chucks,) and many other cool shoes. I would definitely wear these Asics. Do you have a pair or two of cool shoes? Do you like to wear clothing items that are out of the ordinary? I definitely enjoy wearing "funky" items. Once, I refused to leave the house until I found my red converse. We were on our way to pick out our fresh Christmas tree. I really wanted to wear my red shoes to match my gawdy Santa earrings, and my other red attire. Since we had recently moved, I had to make sure that my red shoes made the journey. Tell me about your neat clothes. Do you have any favorites? I know my red shoes make me happy.

February 3, 2012

Lifetime Movies

Guest post written by our friend Katie Callahan

I love watching Lifetime Movies. The acting is usually terrible and they plots are always so predictable, but for some reason I love watching them. I really like the ones that are based on true stories. Somehow they take a normal story and make it super dramatic. I love drama that I am not directly involved in, so I always get sucked in. Lifetime does not show as many movies anymore. There are so many shows that are always on instead. My sister told me that there is a new Lifetime Movie Network and all they show is movies. I decided to search “glendale direct tv” online to find out if I have that channel. I have had Lifetime Movie Network the whole time I have had direct tv and I did not even know it. I am so excited that I can watch Lifetime movies any time I want now. I am looking forward to the next rainy day. I am going to lay in bed all day and have a Lifetime movie marathon and I cannot wait.

February 2, 2012

FREE Burger King Onion Rings

Don't forget to stop by Burger King to get your FREE order of onion rings Saturday February 4, and Sunday February 5th 2012. Stop by and grab an order for your children to share in the car, or grab some for yourself on the way home from church. I haven't been to BK in a long time but, I like free. :)

Find the Burger King location closest to you here.

Valentine's Day Giveaway Blog Hop ($25 gift card to Bath & Body Works)

Mama to 4 Blessings and Chubby Cheeks Thinks
are teaming up to bring you the Valentine's Day Giveaway Hop!
With over 40 bloggers participating there will be a lot of great Valentine's giveaways! This is the perfect way to get something nice for yourself, your kids, or that someone special in your life. Valentine's Day is another great holiday of giving so we are all going to have a giveaway of at least $25 in prizes per winner and that is just the minimum. Some blogs will have more!

I purchased a $25 dollar gift card to Bath & Body Works that I'm looking forward to giving to one of my readers. Just follow the instructions on the Rafflecopter entry form below.

There are many great prizes to win during this Valentine's Day Hop. Good luck everyone!

Happy Valentine's Day! ♥

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